Interbattalion Romances

[C/SSGT Seifer]

Every battalion has at least a few couples within the program. I was just wondering what your opinion on this is. I personally think it is fine as long as it doesn't interfere with what is going on. For example, last year our Unarmed Team Commander was going out with another member of the team. The whole time that we were supposed to be practicing they were kissing or arguing (some times back to back.) Then another member of the team would have to take over and tell us what to do.

[MP_Girl]

Hello C/Seifer (?)

First off, if your display name is your last name, contact Grunt. Violation of the Cadet Protection Policy here at Grunts. Just wanted to friendly point that out to you.

I believe that inter-unit relationships are fine, how ever they should not interfere within the unit and the jobs as well as duties. They should not be kissing, nor displaying any PDA, that is inappropriate, and direct violation of Uniform Policy.

First, you should not allow yourselves to have this in the unit. It is inappropriate, and quite frankly, does not belong in the unit. It is wrong to take these issues to the unit, and you are not suppose to be doing PDA when you have any form of uniform of the armed forces on. My Question to you is why did you allow it to continue? This is dishonor of the unit, corp, and the people in charge.

Punishment should have been discussed within these two people. You should have separated them.

to answer your question, the relationship itself is fine as long as there is no favoritism, and no direct violations of the UCMJ or what ever policies the unit has in place for these types of things.

[Pinpoint_KillerXO]

Siefer,

Its an ok thing mostly to a point. They would both need to understand and respect that they're in uniform. Even if its JROTC, theirs still a rule stated against PDA in uniform. Which them doing that in turn shames your squad, school, and respect. I wouldn't think a person with a lack of emotional control, does not deserve to be a CO in my opinion.

Semper Fi

[TruBlu]

Originally Posted by C/SSGT Seifer

Every battalion has at least a few couples within the program. I was just wondering what your opinion on this is. I personally think it is fine as long as it doesn't interfere with what is going on. For example, last year our Unarmed Team Commander was going out with another member of the team. The whole time that we were supposed to be practicing they were kissing or arguing (some times back to back.) Then another member of the team would have to take over and tell us what to do.

I think that relationships are perfectly fine in the JROTC/ROTC as long as they don't compromise what they are supposed to be doing. I think its ridiculous when people say, "No high school cadet enrolled in the AFJROTC may date another AFJROTC cadet." I've had, in the past, AS4s telling younger AS cadets that they couldn't date certain people. I really just laughed and said that you make matters worse when you say things like that, and make yourself look like a fool.

But while in uniform, the uniform should be respected. And if two people in a relationship can't control themselves for even one day, or at least publicly, they need to spend a little less time with each other...

[C.A.P. Flight Officer]

I mostly agree with what has been said so far. If two cadets date in the unit and then split up because of an argument or an incident, the unit can pretty much be split like the U.S. House of Representatives. Two parties with a few third parties and independents.

[TruBlu]

Originally Posted by C/Colonel

I mostly agree with what has been said so far. If two cadets date in the unit and then split up because of an argument or an incident, the unit can pretty much be split like the U.S. House of Representatives. Two parties with a few third parties and independents.

Lol, nice metaphor. I didn't even think about it in that way.

[MP_Girl]

Originally Posted by C/Colonel

I mostly agree with what has been said so far. If two cadets date in the unit and then split up because of an argument or an incident, the unit can pretty much be split like the U.S. House of Representatives. Two parties with a few third parties and independents.

What the heck? This makes no sense..

[TruBlu]

Originally Posted by MP_Girl

What the heck? This makes no sense..

Lol, don't hate! No, what he means is that if a couple breaks up, usually people will start taking sides if it was a bad breakup. Then people could disagree a lot about stuff for no real reason. Kind of like our government at times, or all the time (did I say that out loud? Oh well...).

[C.A.P. Flight Officer]

Originally Posted by TruBlu

Lol, don't hate! No, what he means is that if a couple breaks up, usually people will start taking sides if it was a bad breakup. Then people could disagree a lot about stuff for no real reason. Kind of like our government at times, or all the time (did I say that out loud? Oh well...).

That is exactly what I meant. LOL about your gov comment. Stuff like this happens. When cadets start taking sides the unit will suffer and most likely the JROTC teacher will get ticked off, then everyone is inn for it.

[Delta Charlie]

I would not presume to tell others how to deal with relationships or their personal lives, so I do not think relationships within the unit should be banned. However, there should be a line drawn when it might mess with the chain of command, or one side of the relationship has authority over the other. Flight Commanders should not date members of their (or really anyone else's) Flight.

This way, during the relationship, they cannot use their influence for favoritism, and after the relationship fails (and it will) they cannot use their influence to make the other person miserable.

It is also true that relationships can and will devide cadets. They will take sides, and you will have a little emotional war within your unit.

Should it be banned, no, because what you do with your life is your business, should it occur, probably not, and definately not within the Chain of Command.