Hope I haven't lost the one I love.

[Drill for life]

I have had a bad day. I was a at church today and my girlfriend was across the room sitting next to this guy. I thought okay no other seats and as time went by he started talking to her and touching her so by now I was furious. I kept it cool and did the Soundbord for Childrens Church. I finsihed that and talked with her sister about how I felt and we talked real in-depth about how she like to be surronded by guys(I don't think she shoul dbe surronded by al these guys I should be the only guy who should surround her is me). I went down to our Singles Luncheon and ran into her and we talked and I told her I was through with her and in comes the guy she brought and they leave and go eat. Here I am fuming mad as H$%^ and she walks off with the guy I am mad at. I go outside to calm down and I come in and I am ready to beat the crap out of this guy, I sit down drink some tea and calm down. I go outside to swing the little kids on the swings and I just fell at ease. I walk inside and I find her and we sit down and talk. I fell like everything is alright. I drive home and go to work. I get off and my mom is in the car and she says that my Girlfriends mom called and told her how my girlfriend was crying because she was frightened of me. I love her so much and I don't want it to end so I called her mom to talk with her mom and she picked up so we called and she told me she would call me after the movie is over. I love her and I don't want it to end, she is the best thing that has ever happened to me(except the Marine Corps) I don't know if I could live if we didn't speak. Pray for me.

[armysc_25b]

I for one don't believe in high school relationships, way too much drama involved. I let my guard down to that belief for a year, and lemme tell ya it was the most stressful year of my time in high school. You have other things to worry about, and at your age love isn't one of them.

[Drill for life]

You are right but you are wrong to, you are not me. I am concerned about this now but not so much like I am going to kill myself. I just love her and want her to be happy.

[navytrooper]

Try to talk to her about your feelings. Make sure you don't sound hostile at all (don't say "meet me HERE at THIS time"), and explain to her how much she means to you and how you just want her to be happy, and say sorry about frightening her, and (if she really doesn't want to be with you) just say that you value her friendship, and that if she doesn't want to be with you, ask her if you guys can still be friends. Good luck...I feel for you...

[Drill for life]

Thanks, we are probaly still going to be dating this wile probally just bring us closer togehter.

[StarLifter]

Dude, saying you don't want her around other guys is taking a very controlling position, which is actually a sign of a potentially abusive relationship. You need to relay your concerns without trying to put restrictions on her, and have a little bit of faith in her ability to be faithful.

-- StarLifter

[soccermark23]

You are way to young to be worrying about this, the majority of these young relationships in high school don't last. People have to go their separate ways and get out on their own and experience life. I think we all had that so called 'young love' during our youth, but once you grow up and go find yourself you'll probably realize that it was just sort of an adolescent fling type deal.

[Drill for life]

I feel real sad, I have just been crying. I never cry I didn't even die when my Papa and my best friend died and her I am crying over pictures of the girl I love. What is wrong with me?

[StarLifter]

I feel real sad, I have just been crying. I never cry I didn't even die when my Papa and my best friend died and her I am crying over pictures of the girl I love. What is wrong with me?


Something called hormones.

Don't go defining your life based on others. As was mentioned earlier, it's a high school relationship. Go out, do something fun that you enjoy, and get your mind off of your troubles.

-- StarLifter

[Drill for life]

Well I broke up with her today. I am so sad and I dno't know how I am going to feel. I need to find a new date to the Cadet Ball.

[Buffa1oso1di3r]

Dude.

Do what I do.

Go stag.

Well, of course, that's because I'm too ugly to even get a date, but that's something else.

[Drill for life]

Well I like to go stag but I don't want to. I want her back you know, I think I did the wrong thing(even though God told me to). She is so fake, for a while she was not the girl I fell in love with so until she can realize I am the only guy who likes her for who she is and not what she looks like it's over. Her sister told me that she didn't even like me(that crap) then why did we date.

[ColorGuardFreak]

You're not listening to the advice that everyone has given you so far. It sounds like you made this one person far too big a part of your life, and your happiness. One thing you should learn from this is that life is all about balance, balancing work, school, relationships, family, hobbies, friends, and time for yourself. Failure to balance these things out can result in you over-investing in one aspect of your life (in this case, your ex-girlfriend), and under-investing everywhere else. Now that the relationship has ended, you don't have the same anchors to help maintain a healthy sense of self and to keep you centered.

One thing I've seen during my time in college, is that high school relationships almost never carry over well into life after high school. Whether one person goes to college, goes into the military, or ends up working at McDonalds (I'm not knocking it, I worked there for 3 years and actually recommend it), it's tough to make things work out.

Learn from this experience. Learn to make someone part of your life, not your whole life. Have faith in love, but realize you're young and have time to find someone worth making a long-term commitment to. Just don't rush into it, and don't over-invest.

-CGF

[Drill for life]

I know but you guys don't know me or who I am. After my grandfather died in 2004 I have just gone astray. My whole life was full of Gangs,Money, bad women which led to horrible relationship's(based on a physical level) I finally met this girl and just calmed down broke off my old friendships and made myself new. I was happier befoer the inceiden then I have been since 2004.

[ColorGuardFreak]

We're trying to give you advice, if you keep refusing it, there's little point in us continuing to try and help you.

You're right we don't know you, but we all have our own experiences that give us perspective on your situation. It's a safe bet we've all had bad relationships, have lost people we care about, and had our own dark times.

[Drill for life]

I respect your advice and I have applied it but I talked with God a lot after I broke up with her and I just feel like God wants us to be together.

[armysc_25b]

I respect your advice and I have applied it but I talked with God a lot after I broke up with her and I just feel like God wants us to be together.

Maybe I don't know what I'm talking about here since I myself am not a man that's close to God, but what makes you think He wants the two of you together after everything that's happened? You have other, more important things to worry about in your life right now; put your focus on those.

[StarLifter]

That feeling like God wants you two to be together is cute, but it's most likely not the case -- there's these things your endocrines secretes, they're called hormones. They are very beneficial most of the time, and pure evil some of the time.

As I said earlier, take a chill pill, and find something else to occupy your mind.

If you'd just relax and let things happen at their own rate, rather than trying to force things to happen the way you want them to, you might find you're leading a more fulfilling life.

-- StarLifter

[Drill for life]

If you'd just relax and let things happen at their own rate, rather than trying to force things to happen the way you want them to, you might find you're leading a more fulfilling life.

I will but at the same time I am going to talk to her.

[StarLifter]

Your choice.

It isn't the end of the world, though. Just take it easy, keep in mind that your hormones are raging and will be for a while, and don't get caught up too much on puppy love.

-- StarLifter

[Drill for life]

puppy love

I have been wondering if it was just that but I don't know I have never been in love(except with The Marine Corps). She is the first thing on my mind when I wake up,The last thing on my mind before I go to sleep. I would stop a bullet for her, if she needed my liver I'd give her my liver, she already has my heart though.

[StarLifter]

You're a teenager. It's puppy love. Trust me. One day, probably two to three years from now, you'll wake up, and wonder what you were thinking.

-- StarLifter

[Drill for life]

I will: Here is the update.
We got back together today and we are going to take it slow. We are not going to rush anything. We talked about what we expect from each other.